New social models are all the rage. What kind of ＂partners＂ do you lack？

"I can’t find like-minded friends, and it’s not safe to ride a bike alone. For me, finding a’ partner’ is the best choice. " Nancy, a post-90s girl, works in a cosmetics company and loves outdoor sports. After work, she likes to ride around the city with her "partner". For this reason, she also bought a beautiful white mountain bike and a series of professional riding equipment.

At first, Nancy tried to invite her friends to ride with her, but her friends always refused to keep the appointment for various reasons. So Nancy turned to posting on the Internet to find a "ride" and soon found a large group of friends who love cycling. In the past two months, she and the "partner" have been cycling together for more than 10 times. In addition to riding, she also eats barbecue, camping, fitness and so on with the "partner". This simple and low-cost social way makes Nancy enjoy it. "Although we don’t know each other, we have a common goal, we can supervise and encourage each other, and we are more motivated to exercise."

In fact, there are many young people who are looking for partners like Nancy. On social platforms such as Little Red Book, Tik Tok and Weibo, all kinds of "seeking notices" emerge one after another. As of October 30th, there were 6.78 million related posts on Little Red Book. Finding "partners" has become the most popular mode of travel at present, and different kinds of "partners" relationships have also enriched the social life of contemporary young people.

A new social model of "partner"

"Partner" refers to a social relationship formed by common interests or needs and formed in a specific scene. Although they are not friends, they can provide the company that modern young people need. The core of "partner" lies in proper companionship, and pays attention to establishing a happy relationship with people with a sense of boundary.

A partner is very similar to a friend, but not exactly the same. The biggest difference between them is stability. Compared with friendship, partners are more casual and don’t need to keep in touch all the time. In daily life, "partner-style" friendship is everywhere. Playing cards has friends, drinking has friends, and playing has friends; There are "rice partners" with the same taste; There are "travel partners" that can not only alleviate loneliness but also save money; There are also "postgraduate partners" who share postgraduate materials; And the "work partner" who chats at work together …

A "partner survey" jointly sponsored by DT Finance and DT Research Institute collected and analyzed 1,431 questionnaires for young people. The results showed that more than half of the young people had at least one partner, and more than 70% of the respondents indicated that they would frequently engage in activities with partners. Some young people think that the importance of "partners" is even higher than that of lovers at some moments.

Almost every piece of information released by young people on the media platform includes an accurate description of the time and place: "I set out from Chengdu and want to find a travel partner to play in Xi’ an during the Qingming period." "Is there any wine in Huaihai Middle Road tomorrow night?" People always have social needs. Even Marx once said that "people are the sum of all social relationships". As a highly substitutable simplified social relationship, "partner socialization" is not only an active choice based on common interests, hobbies and needs, but also a reshaping of the past social way of "friends" and an accurate companion in the vertical field.

Why does "partner" socialization continue to become popular?

In fact, the reason why "partner socialization" has become popular among young people is that it creates a relaxed and casual social atmosphere, which can meet people’s social needs and avoid negative emotions and social overload. It plays an important role in achieving common goals, reducing stress and expanding social circles.

In the past, "getting together" was to find playmates in the acquaintance relationship, but now young people prefer to find strangers on the Internet through hobbies and needs. So, why do so many young people like to find partners?

First of all, "partner" can meet the diverse and personalized social needs of young people. Although the traditional social relationship is stable and intimate, it has certain limitations and inadaptability. For example, some social relationships may lack common topics or hobbies, leading to poor communication. In contrast, "partner socialization" provides more flexibility and freedom. By finding a partner, young people can choose the right social partner according to their own preferences and needs. In the interaction with the partner, young people can share their feelings, exercise, and even explore the world to meet all-round social needs.

Secondly, skillfully balance companionship and sense of boundary. In fact, the sense of boundary that "partners" emphasize socially focuses on behavioral companionship rather than private life, and "partners" are not responsible for each other. In the fast-paced life, the sense of personal boundary becomes more and more important, and young people need more time and space to deal with affairs alone. The "partner" social way allows young people to enjoy social interaction without being excessively occupied by social relationships.

Finally, reduce social costs and avoid social risks. In modern society, interpersonal communication needs to pay time, energy, money and other resources, and may face the risks of disappointment, injury and conflict. However, the "partner" relationship does not need to bear too many responsibilities or obligations, but only needs to accomplish one thing together easily and happily.

The emergence of "partner" social mode is the result of social transformation in Chinese modernization, which not only reflects the change of young people’s social concept, but also expands the social practice channels of young people in China and establishes their new interpersonal network. However, when participating in the "partner" social interaction, we still need to be vigilant and enhance our awareness of protection, and learn to distinguish between true and false information, so as to prevent falling into the fraud trap and causing irreparable consequences.

Written by Cai Yutong

Original title: "The new social model is all the rage. What kind of" partner "do you lack? 》

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